How To Have Your First Lesbian Affair

Have you dated only men all of your life and now you're finally ready to experience your first lesbian affair? The idea of getting involved in a lesbian affair can be frightening but it can also be the best decision that you have ever made. If you're interested in having your first lesbian affair but you're not quite sure how to go about it, follow these guidelines.

Decide What You Want

Before you get involved in your first lesbian affair, figure out what it is that you are looking for. In other words, are you married and looking for an affair on the side? Are you bisexual and just trying to figure out what you want? Are you single and finally ready to get into a lesbian relationship? Are you simply looking for a friends-with-benefits lesbian affair? Before you can seek out a woman to have an affair with, you need to decide what kind of affair you want to get involved in.

Find Women

Particularly in a world that is relatively accepting of gay and lesbians, you probably won't have a hard time finding a woman to have an affair with. If you look on Yahoo Locals, you can find a number of gay bars in just about any city. If you have not yet come out of the closet then a gay bar is a good place to start because chances are you will not run into your straight friends there. If the bar scene isn't for you then browse the Internet for other lesbians. Any dating website that you can possibly sign up for will have an option for "women seeking women." Otherwise, there are websites specifically for lesbians such as  Lesbian-Affair.com, and lesbian-Mates.com. If you want to get away then consider taking a lesbian cruise.

Be Sober

When you're meeting the woman for the first time, be sober. Because the first time can be unnerving there is nothing wrong with having a glass of wine, but don't get trashed. You don't want to be sloppy when you're together for the first time, and you don't want to do or say anything that you might regret. Likewise, if you're planning to meet someone at a bar, you don't want to get so drunk that you go home with someone that you would not have otherwise left with.
Be Safe
Although lesbian sex rids of the risk of pregnancy, it does not eliminate the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. Before you enter into a lesbian love affair, get tested. Before you engage in sexual activity with another woman, be certain that she is also disease free. Some lesbians have vaginal or anal sex with men, and some might inject themselves with drugs. Therefore, lesbians are still at risk for HIV – the chances of transmitting HIV through lesbian interaction is small, but it is still possible. However, it is not that difficult to transmit viruses like herpes because it can pass through contact with a sore. You can also transmit Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, or Hepatitis B by sharing sex toys. Basically, be safe, get tested, and visit your gyno regularly, just as you would if you were with a man.

Be Open-Minded and Realistic

Your first lesbian affair might not be as sexy as it may look in the movies – have realistic expectations. Once you get to know your lover's body and she yours, the experience will be more thrilling. Leave your sex toys at home the first time so you get used to the idea of being with a woman. Explore the skin-on-skin contact and the beauty of the female body. If you enjoy the experience then you will have plenty of time to explore sexual gadgets with her.